I don't understand how so many words of wisdom seem to pour out of my mouth when other people need me, but when it comes to my own life I can't seem to apply them.
Anyways, a friend called me up yesterday a little stressed because her relationship with her boyfriend is going through a rocky patch. He's stressed out about HER past.... once again, I mentioned this last time, why are people so fixated on things that have already happened? At the end of the day, he has to realize that the woman he is in love with is the woman she is TODAY, and unfortunately a lot of shitty things happened way back and he wasn't with her then, he couldn't help her then and she was a different person then. If the girl she is today met the girl she was 5 years ago, she would probably beat the fuck out of her. This is all part of life and all part of growing up. You learn from your mistakes and you take them and turn them into a positive. Dwelling on things in the past will ultimately eat you alive and destroy any chance you have at a relationship. I can't understand why it is so difficult for people to focus on a future TOGETHER as opposed to a past when they were both doing their own fucked up thing.
Even from my own personal experience, I can tell you the girl I am today, the very girl that writes this stupid blog would've kicked the SHIT out of the girl I was a year and a half ago when I was in the worst relationship of my life. The girl I am today NEVER would've allowed myself to be treated the way I was. It was extremely destructive and he made me forget who I was. He truly ripped me apart from the inside and killed my spirit. The worst part is I knew this the entire time we were together but for some reason I couldn't get out either. It was a tough lesson, and it was a very shitty lesson but none the less it was a lesson and now I know better. I know where and I never want to be again and I know exactly the type of person I never want to be with again.
Hooray for revelations.
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